Friday, December 30, 2016
Reminder
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I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, December 26, 2016
If You Love Him, Let Him Go
I have always seen this in the context of one person wanting
to leave and the other person “loving them enough” to let them leave, which
never made sense to me. If someone wanted to leave you, why would you try to
keep them from it, and how successful would you be if you did? But I think
there are other ways in which this is more accurate.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, December 19, 2016
True Freedom
What is true freedom and where does it come from?
John 8 (NASB)
31 So Jesus was saying to those Jews who had believed
Him, “If you continue in My word, then you are
truly disciples of Mine; 32 and you will know the truth,
and the truth will make you free.”
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, December 12, 2016
The Christmas Top 10
In general, Santa Claus and Jesus are both part of our modern Christmas. To most people there is
probably not much difference. Here are 10 ways Jesus is not only different, but better than Santa...
probably not much difference. Here are 10 ways Jesus is not only different, but better than Santa...
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, December 5, 2016
Reprieve From Anxiety
How do you gain peace? The holiday season seems to be full of anxiety and stress. If only there were a secret formula to get rid of anxiety...Actually there is, and it's not a secret. God commands us to not worry, but He also tells us how to do that. The following is an excerpt from my recently published book about trading anxiety for peace...
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Tuesday, November 29, 2016
Have You Missed The Promised Land?
In the book of Exodus, the Israelites are freed from Egypt and set
out across the desert to the land Egypt
and the wilderness, they focused on the humanly impossible situation before
them. As a result, they had to wander another 40 years in the wilderness until
everyone of that generation of fear had passed away. They missed the Promised
Land because they were not willing to trust God and go through the difficulty
required to obtain it. God had promised to them, a good, productive
land. When they arrived, there were giants inhabiting the land already that the
Israelites would have to drive out. Instead of remembering all the mighty
wonders God had performed in
How often do we do that? How often do we miss some blessing
because we are not willing to go through the work to get it?
Labels:
blessing,
promised land,
trouble
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, November 21, 2016
An Exciting Announcement!!!
We take this break in our normal programming to say...I am very excited to announce that after 4 years my first book has been published! All credit goes to God who gave me the inspiration, wisdom and guidance for the entire project. This book is the fruition of the verse:
Romans 8:28 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
Romans 8:28 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
And we know that God causes all things to work
together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, November 14, 2016
Do You Need To Be Undragonned?
dragonish thoughts. After he has a change of heart, he meets Aslan who
will change him back into a human. But first he asks Eustace to “undress”, or
take his dragon skin off. Three times, Eustace claws and scratches a layer of
skin off, but he is still a dragon. Finally, Aslan undresses him. It hurt
terribly, but it was the only way to be cured.
As fantasy as this is, it is something we all need spiritually.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, November 7, 2016
Give Your Expectations to God
What I’ve Learned In Marriage-19—Part of the reason why our
hopes are disappointed, aside from placing them in the wrong thing, is because
we have unrealistic expectations. I have seen many marriages where one spouse
expects the other to fulfill every need they have.
Labels:
burden,
expectations,
marriage
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, October 31, 2016
What Is Your Hope In?
We all hope or trust in something or someone. Whether it is
God, ourselves, another person, another religion, the stock market, we all live
based on that hope. Interestingly, even if our hope is in something specific
(stocks for instance) our perception of that affects the rest of our lives.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, October 24, 2016
Love Does Not Act Unbecomingly
What I’ve Learned in Marriage-18—1 Corinthians 13: 5 (love) does not act unbecomingly NASB. Amplified Bible
includes “conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride);… rude (unmannerly).”
Unfortunately, I have seen many spouses act that way. According to Webster,
unbecomingly means: unattractively, not suitably, improperly. The
So what exactly does that look like?
Labels:
love,
marriage,
politeness,
rude
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, October 17, 2016
Be The Mature One
What I’ve Learned in Marriage—17 - One quality required in
using your power to benefit your marriage is maturity, and that plays in
several ways. First let me say that by being mature I do not mean being the
boss, or bossy. Biblical maturity is achieved by spiritual growth and displayed
in discernment, discipline and self sacrifice, holding to true teaching and not
being swayed by smooth words or emotions.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, October 10, 2016
Do You Take God's Name in Vain?
Exodus 20:7 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
7 “You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for
the Lord will not leave him unpunished
who takes His name in vain.
I had grown up hearing the second commandment repeatedly. I
always thought that it meant to not use the name of God as a swear word. But I
have learned that it involves far more than that. It includes every action we
make and word we speak that is not Christ-like.
Labels:
commandments,
representative,
swearing
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, October 3, 2016
Use Your Power To Benefit Your Marriage
What I've Learned in Marriage 16-We all have times when we feel
powerless, especially in marriage, but we all have the power of influence. And
whether we intentionally exercise that power or not, it still has an effect on
our marriage. We need to be aware of that power and use it to benefit our
marriage rather than passively allowing it to undermine it. How do we do that?
It is different for every person and every marriage, but there are some basics
that are fairly universal.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, September 26, 2016
What About Love
The concept of love has changed in the past years to the
point that many now, even churches, do not know what love really is. When you
say love, people think of romance and fluffy feelings. It has become something
that you cannot control, it just happens, and as a result comes and goes at its
own will seemingly. But is that biblical?
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, September 19, 2016
A Letter to the Hurting
I recently wrote this letter to my niece who is going through a really hard time, but the principles apply to many. I have shared portions of it in the hopes that it will help others as well.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, September 12, 2016
Look For the Rainbow
What I've Learned in Marriage-15 It is often said to look for the silver lining after the
storm, meaning look for the good side of the situation. That outlook can change
your life because if you focus on finding the positive in life and remaining
hopeful even in the worst times you will gain victory. I started keeping a journal
with all of my “trials” in one column and the “silver lining” in the other.
Determining to learn what you can from every situation will cause you to grow
in maturity and wisdom greater and faster than any other way and will keep you
from despairing in life. But I’ve discovered that there is more to look for
than the silver lining or even the lesson to be learned. There is also the
promise.
Labels:
marriage,
perspective,
promise,
rainbow
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
You Are What You Think
What I Learned in Marriage-14- As I said in the previous post,
our minds are the basis of our selves. Our thoughts determine our mood, emotions,
attitudes, ideas, actions, and words. What and how we think is incredibly
important because it will determine our lives and futures. The Bible gives very
clear, helpful instructions on what we are to think about in order to produce
positive, godly lives. The following is an excerpt from my recently published book (Hope in Suffering) which talks about one verse that is foundational for our thought lives…
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, September 2, 2016
True Peace
Isaiah 26:3New American Standard Bible (NASB)
The steadfast of mind You will keep
in perfect peace,
Because he trusts in You.
Because he trusts in You.
Peace comes from God because He is the Sovereign Lord of all
creation. He is in control of everything and is more powerful than all.
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peace
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, August 26, 2016
Don't Be His Mom
What I've Learned in Marriage 13--I have seen the adage that “a woman
doesn’t need kids because she has a husband” and it definitely seems true in
some cases, but I don’t think that should be our attitude. Whether your husband
acts like a child or not, it is not your job to be his mom. He already has one
and it’s not you.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, August 19, 2016
There Is Always a Waiting Period
What I've Learned in Marriage-12-Everything good requires waiting. You have to wait to grow
up, graduate from high school and then college. You have to wait to meet the
person you will marry, and then wait (at least a little while) before you are
married. When you get pregnant, you have to wait around 9 months before the
baby is born. We acquire nothing without waiting, but why?
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, August 12, 2016
Grow Together
What I've Learned in Marriage-11
Matthew 19:4-6 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
And He answered and said, “Have you
not read that He who created them from the beginning made
them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one
flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has
joined together, let no man separate.”
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Monday, August 8, 2016
Religion or the Gospel
Many Christians are still living as under a religion rather than being immersed in a relationship with Christ. The gospel is something that they needed to be saved and then they never think about it again. But the gospel is the basis of our beliefs and without it we are lost. We need to preach the gospel to ourselves every day even after we are saved. We should be living in the gospel rather than religion. This chart shows the difference between the two...
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, August 5, 2016
Surrender to Suffering
Jeremiah 21:9 He
who dwells in this city will die by the sword and by famine and by
pestilence; but he who goes out and falls away to the Chaldeans who are
besieging you will live, and he will have his own life as booty. (NASB)
It seems counter-intuitive that surrender would end
better than standing your ground, especially for Americans. But that is just
what God told the Israelites when they were besieged by the Babylonians.
I read a story⃰ about a woman who learned (after a near
perfect life) that her third child died in utero. Unable to bear the pain of
suffering, she and her husband turned to their own sources of consolation. He
became a workaholic, she an alcoholic. Those choices resulted in the
destruction of everything they knew: family, marriage, work, relationships.
Everything fell apart.
I think both of these stories have the same reasoning behind
them.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, July 29, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-10
Learn to laugh—They say
laughter is the best medicine. And it is, to be sure, but it is also a good
habit to form, ill or not. The first few years of my marriage (ok, so far all of my
marriage) has been overshadowed by a clash between my husband’s light
heartedness and my (much) more serious attitude toward life. My husband takes almost
nothing seriously, and I overcompensate by taking everything seriously.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, July 22, 2016
What About Sin?
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, July 15, 2016
Future Generations
Since I wrote about how to treat older generations last
week, I thought I would take this week to talk about the next generations… I
have seen a lot of Christian families with one or more child who either does
not live a godly life or has even turned away from the faith altogether. This is
regrettable and seems to be almost inevitable, but I don’t think it has to be.
I do know a few families in which all the children are ardent followers of
Christ.
Labels:
children,
disciple,
generation,
train
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, July 8, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-9
“Honor your parents” includes
your in-laws—This was part of my last post that I thought deserved
expansion. It was a concept I had never thought of until my mom mentioned it to
me after I had been married a few years.
Labels:
generation,
honor,
marriage,
parents
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, July 1, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-8
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, June 24, 2016
Compromise: The Cause and The Cure
2 Chronicles 12:14New American Standard Bible (NASB)
14 He did evil because he
did not set his heart to seek the Lord.
We can draw a lot from this one verse. First we see the
obvious: he (Rehoboam) did what was wrong because he didn’t seek God. The
Amplified says that he didn’t seek to yearn for God. He didn’t determine to
make seeking God first priority in his life. It’s not that he was planning to
turn from God, or even that he didn’t follow God at all, but he wasn’t diligent
or passionate, resolved to only seek after God and to place that first in his
life. If you set your heart to seek God you are not only trying to seek God,
but making that your heart’s desire. It is so much more than “trying to be
good” or just doing your best to follow God.
Labels:
abide,
compromise,
seek
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, June 17, 2016
Head Lice and Idols
I was talking with some friends from church the other day
about kids getting head lice at school. They mentioned that it seems like it is
always the same family that starts it. They surmised the reason is because when
that family finds out they have it, they treat the kids but don’t pursue it by
deep cleaning everything in the house to completely rid the family of the
pests. So every few months, one of the creatures would find its way back to one
of the kids and hitches a ride to school, spreading them all over again.
That situation reminded me of what I just read in Judges
1-5.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, June 10, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-7
Guard your heart; purity is for life, not just
singleness—Growing up, purity rings and the idea of “remaining pure/waiting
for marriage” was very popular. Unfortunately, that is where the emphasis
ended. It wasn’t until after I was married that I learned that purity is about more than just virginity. It is a
lifestyle, not something only for single people.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, June 3, 2016
A Letter to the Longing
I want to take a break from my series on marriage to write a
post for those who are not married (granted this really applies to everyone but
especially to those not married).
There has been a tantalizing lie going around (for decades)
that you need to be in a relationship to be happy, and that being married will
make you happy and your life will be wonderful. I am one of many that bought
into that lie and spent most of my life after the age of…well, too young,
desiring and fantasizing about having a boyfriend and getting married.
Unfortunately, my father was one of the biggest proponents of this idea who has
fueled that longing ever since I was a teenager. I never dated until my mid
twenties (not because I didn’t want to), when I met the man I am now married
to. And dating was wonderful!, probably the best year of my life. But the
problem is that we were not made to be fulfilled by human relationships, so the
bliss of dating only increased the heartache when I finally came to the point
where that relationship no longer fulfilled me the way it had.
Labels:
contentment,
lonely,
marriage,
relationships,
single
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, May 27, 2016
What I Learned in Marriage-6
Beware of Nostalgia-I think
it appropriate to follow the encouragement to “only remember the good” with
this warning. While we definitely should strive to only remember (or think
about) good things/times, we need to be careful what place we give those
memories and thoughts. They should serve to encourage us, in good and bad, to
remind us that times aren’t always hard, to remember a person’s qualities when
you are faced with their faults. The danger is when those memories become
something that we strive for in themselves, when we try to regain that fond time
or happy feeling.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, May 20, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-5
Consciously choose to forget
the bad and remember only the good—This is essential to maintaining a good,
healthy marriage, and is tied to 3 and 4. Remembering the bad drives a barrier
between you and your husband. Love does not do that. True, Godly love keeps NO
record of wrongs suffered, it is not angered or irritated by personal offenses
(1 Cor 13).
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, May 13, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-4
Be quick to forgive and ask
forgiveness—This is connected to number 3. No where in the Bible does it
say that we are justified in not forgiving someone, or even in putting off
forgiveness. In fact, it is the opposite; we are commanded to forgive even if
the other person doesn’t apologize. We feel like we are punishing the other
person, or teaching them a lesson, when we withhold forgiveness, but in reality
we are just driving a wedge in the relationship, and pretending to be God by
judging that person.
Labels:
apologize,
forgiveness,
marriage
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, May 6, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-3
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, April 29, 2016
What I Learned in Marriage-2
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Thursday, April 21, 2016
What I've Learned in Marriage-1
I am starting a new series about what I've learned in marriage. I will post every Friday.
Make the most of every opportunity—After the newness of marriage fades, couples often let dates and romance fade as well. They become less frequent, and even less exciting, than they were before the wedding. It’s almost inevitable. But with that bit of saddening news comes a challenge: instead of lamenting the loss of romance, redefine it. So maybe you don’t get all dressed up every Friday night, maybe you don’t even go out every Saturday and instead watch a movie at home.
Make the most of every opportunity—After the newness of marriage fades, couples often let dates and romance fade as well. They become less frequent, and even less exciting, than they were before the wedding. It’s almost inevitable. But with that bit of saddening news comes a challenge: instead of lamenting the loss of romance, redefine it. So maybe you don’t get all dressed up every Friday night, maybe you don’t even go out every Saturday and instead watch a movie at home.
Labels:
marriage,
opportunity
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Friday, April 15, 2016
Does God Want You to be a Good Person?
There was once a man who thought he was good. Certainly he
was not perfect, who is? But he took care of his family, attended church
regularly, was faithful to his wife. He may not have been obedient in
everything, but he made sure that no one knew about it when he strayed, and
it’s not like he ever did anything “that bad.” He was definitely a better
person than crazy Uncle Larry or Joe Shmoe down the street. In fact, he was
better than anyone he knew, so he figured he must be good enough right? I mean,
how good can a human with a sin-nature be?...
Labels:
devotion,
godly,
good enough,
testimony
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
Saturday, April 9, 2016
A Slave to Whom?
Imagine, if you will, that you are single but you have found
The One that you love more than anything on this earth. But that One has been
sold into slavery as a prostitute. So you take everything that you have and
sell it all so that you can buy that One out of slavery. And after giving up
everything that you have, the two of you are married and begin your life
together. But after the honeymoon starts to fade, and things slow down, you
notice that your Love has become distant, and not around as often as before.
When questioned, the only response is “Oh, I was busy with something” and
nothing more. And your Love begins to have less and less time for you. Finally,
one day you follow your Love…to the place where they were purchased from. Your
Love has been voluntarily going back to the place of slavery and prostitution.
Heartbroken, you plead with your Love to stop and come back to you. They agree
and return with you, promising never to return again. But they do. And this
process repeats it’s self over and over.
I am passionate about learning and my faith, so I combine the two. My greatest goal is to daily grow to be more like Christ, and to help others do the same.
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