Be quick to forgive and ask
forgiveness—This is connected to number 3. No where in the Bible does it
say that we are justified in not forgiving someone, or even in putting off
forgiveness. In fact, it is the opposite; we are commanded to forgive even if
the other person doesn’t apologize. We feel like we are punishing the other
person, or teaching them a lesson, when we withhold forgiveness, but in reality
we are just driving a wedge in the relationship, and pretending to be God by
judging that person.
God has forgiven us a debt that we could never even
fathom, and He did it in the blink of an eye. He didn’t wait a while to teach
us a lesson or make us “feel” how much we wronged Him. He extended full and
perfect grace, immediately.
Luke 23:34New American Standard Bible (NASB)
34 But Jesus was
saying, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.”
Are we better than God that we
would not do the same? If we expect to be forgiven, by God or our husbands, we
need to be ready to forgive as well.
Matthew 6:14-15 NASB
14 For if you
forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also
forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others, then your
Father will not forgive your transgressions.
Sometimes it takes constant effort
to not hold it against him, but it must be done. It will only destroy your
marriage to hold on to it. Holding on to it creates bitterness, which is like
drinking poison expecting the other person to die. It doesn’t work and it
doesn’t make sense.
James 5:16New American Standard Bible (NASB)
16 Therefore, confess your sins
to one another, and pray for one another so that you may
be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish
much.
Likewise, we need to be quick to
confess and ask forgiveness for any offense against our husbands. It not only
serves to heal the wound that has been inflicted, but also shows humility and
love because you are putting your marriage and your husband above yourself, and
it sets the standard in your marriage. If you are open and vulnerable like
that, your husband will feel more willing to do likewise. It is hard to do, but
it is what God calls us to do in order to reflect His love for us through our marriage.
And it has a far greater reward than holding him under your thumb or denying
your wrong. But you need to make the choice, who will you put first, yourself
or your husband? Who will you obey, yourself or God?
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