
Why do we suffer? Why am I going through this? Why is life
so hard? Why do the innocent seem to pay for the crimes of the wicked? Why did
God allow this to happen?... We have all asked at least one of these questions
at some time, and for many it is the reason why faith in God is ultimately
rejected. The idea that a loving, all-powerful God would allow such horrible
tragedies is reprehensible to our way of thinking. Unfortunately, many stop at
the questions and never get an answer.
Genesis 3:17-19 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the
voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you,
saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’;
Cursed is the ground because of you;
In toil you will eat of it
All the days of your life.
“Both thorns and thistles it
shall grow for you;
And you will eat the plants
of the field;
By the sweat of your face
You will eat bread,
Till you return to the
ground,
Because from it you were
taken;
For you are dust,
And to dust you shall
return.”
The ultimate reason there is suffering in the world is
because of sin. Sin is disobedience: anything we do that is contrary to God’s
ways or commands. In a sense, it is spiritual treason because it is choosing to
follow God’s enemy, satan, rather than God.
God did not create sin. He created a perfect, beautiful
world without death, disease, suffering, pain or anything bad. It was without
fault, and mankind was blessed to live in that perfection as perfect beings in
perfect union with God. But then mankind sinned. Adam and Eve chose to rebel
against God and paid the consequences for it. Yet, those consequences did not
affect them only, but all of humanity and all of creation as well. Sin
literally cursed the very ground they walked on.
While sin is the cause of all suffering, there are three
main categories of sin that cause us to suffer:
- The first
is our own sin. We do something wrong and suffer the consequences of it.
When we lie or steal, we suffer the consequences of not being trusted (not
to mention any legal ramifications that may arise.)
- The
second is others’ sin. We suffer because of the choices others make,
especially in the family unit. Children suffer because of the choices of
their parents and vice versa. Sometimes we suffer due to the choices of
the government or those in authority. We are connected with others so in
some way what we do affects them and what they do affects us.
- The
third is the result sin has on this world. God did not make the world to
have storms, disease, cancer, genetic mutations, sickness or natural
disasters. It was perfect, but sin corrupted it. Weeds and thorns grow
among crops. Storms come to damage the earth. Genes mutate to cause
problems and disabilities. Sickness, disease and cancer plague our bodies.
These are signs that we live in a fallen world which is longing for God to
redeem and restore it.
Hebrews 12:4-11 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
You have not yet resisted to the point of shedding blood in
your striving against sin; and you have forgotten the exhortation which is addressed
to you as sons,
“My son, do not regard lightly the
discipline of the Lord,
Nor faint when
you are reproved by Him;
For
those whom the
Lord loves He disciplines,
And He
scourges every son whom He receives.”
It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as
with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
But if you are without
discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate
children and not sons. Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us, and
we respected them; shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of
spirits, and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to
them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share
His holiness. All
discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those
who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of
righteousness.
Why does God allow us
to suffer the consequences of our own sin?
Consequences are part of the natural course of life.
Everything we do has consequences—good for good and bad for bad. We choose what we do so we must accept the
consequences that come with our choices and actions. If there were no
consequences, we would have no reason to do what is right or to avoid what is
wrong. It teaches us how to behave.
For those who believe in God we also experience His
discipline, like any loving parent disciplines their child. As these verses
say, correction is painful in the moment, but if we are trained by it, it
yields peace and righteousness.
We also choose our response to suffering and discipline. We
can surrender to God and allow Him to use it to grow us and make us more holy
like Him, or we can whine and wallow in self pity which will leave us bitter
and unhappy without changing our circumstances at all.
Why do the innocent
suffer?
Most rebel at the idea of suffering because they feel they
do not deserve it. When children suffer at the hands of others it seems
especially tragic because we view them as being innocent and undeserving. But
are they really?
Romans 3:10,23 New American Standard
Bible (NASB)
as it is written,
There is none righteous, not even
one;…
for
all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
Psalm 51:5 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity,
And in sin my mother
conceived me.
Because of Adam’s sin, all are born and conceived in sin. We
begin life with a sin nature. The idea that all people are basically good is
neither biblical, nor accurate. Roman philosopher Marcus Aurelius said that
children are innocent, not because of their nature, but because of their limbs;
withhold something from them and they would kill you if they could. Children do
not have to be taught to lie, steal or be unkind. They do, however, have to be
taught to share, to be obedient, and to be kind. Rather than innocence, it is
more a matter of being unable to defend themselves against the choices of those
around them. None of us are innocent before God, but we are, or can be,
innocent with regard to earthly relationships and circumstances.*
Our view of being innocent or undeserving of punishment is
distorted because our view of sin is distorted. If we saw sin as something
completely abhorrent and vile, as treason against our holy and perfect God, we
would not be surprised that we suffer so much, but instead wonder why we suffer
so little. We deserve so much worse than we get because of our rebellion
against the holy God. Yet God is merciful and gracious. He does not punish us
as we deserve, but allows us to experience only what will bring us to Him in
repentance. We deserve to die the moment we commit our first sin, but because
God is gracious and merciful, we don’t. Instead, He allows us to experience
consequences that teach us to not sin.
Romans 8:28 New American Standard Bible 1995
And we know that God causes all things to work
together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according
to His purpose.
2 Corinthians 1:5-7 New American Standard Bible 1995
For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in
abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ. But if we are afflicted, it
is for your comfort and salvation; or if we are comforted, it is for your
comfort, which is effective in the patient enduring of the same sufferings
which we also suffer; and our hope for you is firmly grounded, knowing
that as you are sharers of our sufferings, so also you are sharers of
our comfort.
2 Corinthians 7:8-10 New American Standard Bible 1995
For though I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not
regret it; though I did regret it—for I see that that letter caused
you sorrow, though only for a while— I now rejoice, not that you were
made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance;
for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, so
that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according
to the will of God produces a repentance without
regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world
produces death.
This does not mean that we deserve everything bad that
happens to us. As His children, God wants us to enjoy good things. Instances of
unjust suffering, abuse and loss are devastating and not part of God’s original
plan for us.
God does not cause
bad things to happen to us. He gives us free will to make our own choices, and
to receive the consequences of those choices. He does not desire for us to
suffer, but He also does not want us to sin. He does protect us from some
things, but not from everything, allowing what will help us to grow if we trust
in Him.
Why does God send
people to hell?
He doesn’t. It is a choice we make ourselves. Heaven is
spending eternity enveloped in God’s presence. Would anyone who hates God enjoy
that? Why would He force someone who has rejected Him and wants nothing to do
with Him, to then spend eternity with Him? He allows us to decide where we will
spend eternity. We must accept the results of our choices. But that is not the
end…
None of us deserve to go to Heaven. We get so much better
than we deserve because of God’s grace and mercy. Grace is receiving a gift we
don’t deserve, and mercy is not receiving the punishment we do deserve. God is
just, all sin must be paid for, but we do not always foot the bill.
The greatest story of the innocent suffering unjustly is
Jesus Christ, the Son of God. He came to earth, lived a perfect, sinless life,
and yet He took on the punishment for the sins of the world. He did not deserve
to suffer in any way, yet He suffered cruelly. Why did He suffer? Because He
loves us. Our sins, even just one, permanently separate us from God. He is holy
and perfect and cannot be in the presence of sin, which means that we are
eternally separated from Him. But He loves us so much that He made a way for us
to be with Him through the sacrifice of His perfect Son. Jesus paid the debt we
owe so that we could live with Him forever!
2 Corinthians 5:21 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our
behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
John 3:16-17 New American
Standard Bible (NASB) (emphasis added)
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten
Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.
For
God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world
might be saved through Him.
It is a common practice with livestock that when a mother
loses her baby, the hide of her dead baby is cut off and tied over the back of
an orphan in order to get her to adopt it. In this way, when the mother sniffs
the orphan she smells her baby and allows it to nurse, accepting it as her own.
In the same way, Christ, the only Son of God, died so that His righteous blood
could cover us. Then, when God looks at us He sees His Son and accepts us. We
just have to accept His sacrifice, allowing
His blood to cover us and make us right with God. It does not happen to
everyone automatically. We have to choose
it.
What is your choice? Have you accepted Jesus’ sacrifice for
your sins, surrendering your life to Him? If you have, praise God! Choose to
see suffering as God’s tool to refine and mold you into His likeness, removing
the sinful tendencies that are in you.
If you have not accepted Him, will you now? Repent of your
sin and accept His sacrifice for it. Give your life to Him so that you can be
righteous before God, He can make you holy and redeem your suffering.
*While we are born and conceived sinful humans, I do not
believe that God would send to hell a baby or young child who is too young to
understand the concept of salvation. I believe we choose where we go, and if a
child is incapable of understanding or making that choice, it would not be just
to condemn them. God is always perfectly just. He does not, cannot, do anything
wrong or unjust. In 2 Samuel 12:22-23 David said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who
knows, the Lord may be gracious to me, that the child may live.’ But
now he has died; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I will go to
him, but he will not return to me.” The Bible does not directly address
this issue, but based on God’s character and the quote by David stating that he
would see his infant child after it died, I believe that those unable to make
that choice will not be held responsible for what they are incapable of
understanding. At what age a child is able to understand is not definitive, I
believe it is different for everyone and only God knows, but we can trust that
He will do what is right and just.