In theory, it is easy to accept that we will be wrong at
some point. We are human, fallen, sinful. Some time in our lives we will say
the wrong thing, do something wrong, be mistaken. Admitting that we are wrong,
however, is much more difficult. Some people have an easier time than others,
but I don’t think it is easy for anyone. Whether it is apologizing for
something we did or said, or acknowledging that we were wrong about something,
it can be extremely difficult. Yet it is also necessary.
Admitting wrong is primarily difficult because it is a
matter of pride. We don’t want to admit we are wrong because that would mean
that we are less than we believe we are. It causes us to be humbled. Our pride
wants to maintain that we are right no matter what. That blow to our ego is
painful. Yet, the Bible calls us to be humble in everything.
1 Peter 5:5 New American
Standard Bible (NASB) (emphasis added)
You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe
yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is
opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.
God hates pride because it is trying to put us on a level
with or even above God. Most would never openly say something like that, but
that is what is at work within us. That is what caused satan to fall, and he
will try to ensnare us in it as well.
Humility is putting others first regardless of who is right,
better, or more important. Humility values others above self. It doesn’t put
self down, it just doesn’t think about self at all. That is how we should be,
caring about others and God more, sacrificing self for the sake of others.
Philippians 2:3-4 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with
humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;
do not merely look out for your own personal
interests, but also for the interests of others.
I once read (I can’t find the original quote) that, “Compassion
is lost with the desire to be right.” In essence, when we start to insist that
we are right (even if we are), we begin to lose love, to put ourselves first,
to value ourselves above the other person. We must win the argument at all
cost. And there is always a price to pay.
More than just being humble and giving up our right to be
right, we need to be willing to admit that we are wrong, and do it graciously. Many
people will not give an apology when they are told they have hurt another because
they cannot admit that they were wrong. They destroy people and relationships,
not through their initial painful (albeit unintentional) acts, but through
their pride and unwillingness to be wrong.
James 5:16 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for
one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man
can accomplish much.
We need to be willing to make things right. Our relationships
with others should be more important to us than our pride.
Another important aspect of admitting we are wrong to others
is for the sake of accountability and restoration. We all sin at some point. It’s
a given. When we sin we need to repent and ask God’s forgiveness and
restoration. Refusing to repent is denying that what we have done is wrong and
rejects Jesus’ sacrifice for that sin. It basically denies the need for
redemption, and if we don’t need to be redeemed then we don’t need a Savior,
and therefore can’t be saved.
Hebrews 10:26-29 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
For if we go on sinning willfully after receiving the
knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins,
but a terrifying
expectation of judgment and the fury of a fire which will
consume the adversaries. Anyone who has set aside the Law of Moses dies without
mercy on the testimony of two or
three witnesses. How much severer punishment do you think he will deserve who
has trampled under foot the Son of God, and has regarded as unclean the blood
of the covenant by which he was sanctified, and has insulted the Spirit of
grace?
1 John 1:10 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
If we say that we have not
sinned, we make Him a liar and His word is not in us.
Accepting Jesus as our Savior requires admitting that we
have sinned, turning away from that sin, and asking Him to forgive us,
otherwise He died unnecessarily. And that is not a one time thing either. We need
to repent every time we sin. Refusing to do that is denying that very thing for
which He died. It is treating His sacrifice with contempt. We have to be
willing to admit that we are wrong.
1 John 1:9 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
If we confess our sins, He is
faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness.
The point of admitting our sin is to be cleansed from our
sin so that we can be more like Jesus. Sin offends Him. Because of His
holiness, He cannot be in the presence of sin and therefore cannot have
fellowship with us if we have unrepented sin in our hearts. He will cleanse us
if we ask, but we have to admit that we need cleansing.
Proverbs 27:17 New American
Standard Bible (NASB)
Iron
sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.
The goal of confessing our sin to other believers is partly
to restore our relationships with them, but also so they can keep us
accountable. We are set in the family of God so that we can help each other
become more godly. Becoming like Christ is the ultimate purpose for every
believer, and should be our goal, but we can’t do it alone. We need the help of
God, but we also need the help of others. We are often blind to our sin, but
others can often see it pretty clearly. We need people in our lives who love us
enough to help us become better. I am not talking about those who criticize for
the sake of picking faults or puffing themselves up over the failings of
others, but those who truly love and desire to build us up by helping us grow
closer to God.
A willingness to admit we are wrong is the first, and most
important, step, but how we handle acknowledging that we are wrong is also
important. Remember that we are representatives of God, and we need to behave
in a godly manner always. This is no exception. We need to respond with
humility when we see our wrong. We need to put down our pride, which would
revolt at the idea, and willingly accept it. We need to realize that we are
sinful, and that trying to maintain the posture of being better than we truly
are is arrogant and self-deceptive. I say “self” because no one else is fooled
by it.
Responding in a prideful way only adds to our sin. Graciously
and humbly dealing with our wrong will much more quickly set us on the path to
being right. The more quickly we remove sin when it happens the closer we get
to God, and the closer we get to God the less we will sin.
How do you respond when you are wrong? Are you willing to
admit when you are wrong? Ask God to reveal your heart, to cleanse it of pride,
and help you be humble and gracious.
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