Gentleness seems to be more of a personality trait than
anything. We all know some people who seem to be very gentle by nature, and
many people who are not gentle at all. It really doesn’t seem to have as much
to do with a person’s faith as it does their disposition. Is gentleness really
something we all can and should have? Can those who are by nature harsh or
rough become gentle?
First, let us define gentleness as used in the Bible: mildness of disposition, gentleness of spirit, meekness, i.e. humility. This definition
includes a few different aspects. When we think of gentleness, gentleness of
spirit is what usually comes to mind, someone who is by nature calm, kind and
delicate.
But there are other aspects that are just as important to
notice. Gentleness also includes a mildness of disposition, meaning someone who
is not emotionally driven, either to anger or despair or sadness. It is a
person who is calm in any situation, especially when faced with others who are
not gentle in some way. This requires patience and selflessness, one who is not
demanding for themselves, or easily upset or angered by offenses.
The third aspect plays off of the second, and that is
meekness. A person who has gentleness is meek, or humble, toward others and
God. It is a person who puts others first and views them as being more
important than self. This viewpoint causes gentleness because, as with
mildness, a person who views others as more important will not be easily
offended or demanding. They will have a more genuine love and concern for
others which will cause them to treat others more kindly and gently than
someone who does not care, or who is very prideful or defensive.
If gentleness were simply a personality trait, then not
everyone could be that way, nor would God command others to be so. But gentleness
is also a perspective, a way of viewing others, self and situations. Personality
traits are a way a person is made, but perspective and view point is the way a
person thinks.
Romans 12:2 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
And do not be
conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of
your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is
good and acceptable and perfect.
The world would tell us that we should think of ourselves
first, that we should be offended when someone mistreats us, that we should
get impatient when things don't go our way, that we should let others know
how they have wronged us and treat them accordingly. The world would say that
gentleness is weak. But we are not to act as the world does. We need to be
transformed by the Word and grace of God. We need to think as Christ does, for
our actions stem from our hearts, and our hearts are influenced by our
thoughts.
2 Corinthians 10:1a New American Standard Bible (NASB)
Now I, Paul, myself urge
you by the meekness and gentleness of Christ.
Christ is gentle and meek, and we are to be like Him. We should
not be proud of our offendedness, our temper, our emotional tendencies, our
gruffness or lack of compassion toward others. All of those are ungodly and
show the world that we are like the world instead of Christ. But becoming
gentle and meek is not something we just make happen. The key to the fruit of
the Spirit is that is it something the Spirit produces and grows. We need to
seek God, seek to be like Him, but also seek His work in our lives. We need to
allow Him to work in us, to change and mold us into His likeness.
Part of that comes from spending time with Him. Jim Rohn
once said that “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time
with.” We are influenced by those we are around the most, but that also
includes media; what we watch, read and listen to. If God is not in our top
five, then we will not be greatly influenced by Him. If we are listening to,
watching and reading worldly things, then we will be influenced toward the
world. This does not mean that we should never watch, listen to or read secular
media, but they should not be our largest intaking.
In the same way, while we should not shut out those who do
not believe in God, they should not be the ones we are around the most. Of course,
we cannot control who we work with, or our family. But if we are placed in
situations where we are around the unsaved for large parts of the day, then we
need to actively seek more time and relationships with those who will be a
godly influence in our lives. We need to be intentional about our time with
God, and seek out Bible study groups and mentors who will encourage us toward
godliness.
If we are around those who are not gentle, we will not be
gentle. Seek God, seek the godly, seek gentleness!
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