Be The Mature One

What I’ve Learned in Marriage—17 - One quality required in using your power to benefit your marriage is maturity, and that plays in several ways. First let me say that by being mature I do not mean being the boss, or bossy. Biblical maturity is achieved by spiritual growth and displayed in discernment, discipline and self sacrifice, holding to true teaching and not being swayed by smooth words or emotions.

Hebrews 5:13-14 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

¹³ For everyone who partakes only of milk is not accustomed to the word of righteousness, for he is an infant. ¹⁴ But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil. 6:1 Therefore leaving the elementary teaching about the Christ, let us press on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God, ² of instruction about washings and laying on of hands, and the resurrection of the dead and eternal judgment. 

The maturity required in marriage is one of sacrifice. One that does what is best for those one loves at the sacrifice of one’s self. It means loving regardless of how you are treated (even if you don't feel like it), serving even if you are never served. It means controlling your emotions so that you can act calmly and wisely rather than reacting in the heat of emotion and making mistakes that you will later have to fix. It means keeping the goal and eternity in mind rather than living for the moment. It means being a good example without acting arrogantly, disdainfully or putting others down. It means living as you should even if others don’t, continuing in your walk with God even if you are alone.

It also means not giving up hope. I know at times it may look hopeless, that there will never be any improvement, but love never loses hope. Maturity does what is right no matter what and follows God through it all, staying strong in faith and perseverance.

Romans 5:3-5 NASB

³ And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; ⁴ and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; ⁵ and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Let God grow you in maturity so that your faith and marriage will be blessed and thrive. Stay strong as a child of God.

Ephesians 5 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

5 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; 2 and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

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