Don't Be His Mom

What I've Learned in Marriage 13--I have seen the adage that “a woman doesn’t need kids because she has a husband” and it definitely seems true in some cases, but I don’t think that should be our attitude. Whether your husband acts like a child or not, it is not your job to be his mom. He already has one and it’s not you.

There Is Always a Waiting Period

What I've Learned in Marriage-12-Everything good requires waiting. You have to wait to grow up, graduate from high school and then college. You have to wait to meet the person you will marry, and then wait (at least a little while) before you are married. When you get pregnant, you have to wait around 9 months before the baby is born. We acquire nothing without waiting, but why?

Grow Together

What I've Learned in Marriage-11

Matthew 19:4-6 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Religion or the Gospel

Many Christians are still living as under a religion rather than being immersed in a relationship with Christ. The gospel is something that they needed to be saved and then they never think about it again. But the gospel is the basis of our beliefs and without it we are lost. We need to preach the gospel to ourselves every day even after we are saved. We should be living in the gospel rather than religion. This chart shows the difference between the two...

Surrender to Suffering

Jeremiah 21:9 He who dwells in this city will die by the sword and by famine and by pestilence; but he who goes out and falls away to the Chaldeans who are besieging you will live, and he will have his own life as booty. (NASB)

It seems counter-intuitive that surrender would end better than standing your ground, especially for Americans. But that is just what God told the Israelites when they were besieged by the Babylonians.

I read a story⃰ about a woman who learned (after a near perfect life) that her third child died in utero. Unable to bear the pain of suffering, she and her husband turned to their own sources of consolation. He became a workaholic, she an alcoholic. Those choices resulted in the destruction of everything they knew: family, marriage, work, relationships. Everything fell apart.

I think both of these stories have the same reasoning behind them.