Friday, May 27, 2016

What I Learned in Marriage-6

Beware of Nostalgia-I think it appropriate to follow the encouragement to “only remember the good” with this warning. While we definitely should strive to only remember (or think about) good things/times, we need to be careful what place we give those memories and thoughts. They should serve to encourage us, in good and bad, to remind us that times aren’t always hard, to remember a person’s qualities when you are faced with their faults. The danger is when those memories become something that we strive for in themselves, when we try to regain that fond time or happy feeling.

Friday, May 20, 2016

What I've Learned in Marriage-5

Consciously choose to forget the bad and remember only the good—This is essential to maintaining a good, healthy marriage, and is tied to 3 and 4. Remembering the bad drives a barrier between you and your husband. Love does not do that. True, Godly love keeps NO record of wrongs suffered, it is not angered or irritated by personal offenses (1 Cor 13).

Friday, May 13, 2016

What I've Learned in Marriage-4

Be quick to forgive and ask forgiveness—This is connected to number 3. No where in the Bible does it say that we are justified in not forgiving someone, or even in putting off forgiveness. In fact, it is the opposite; we are commanded to forgive even if the other person doesn’t apologize. We feel like we are punishing the other person, or teaching them a lesson, when we withhold forgiveness, but in reality we are just driving a wedge in the relationship, and pretending to be God by judging that person.

Friday, May 6, 2016

What I've Learned in Marriage-3

Bless those who curse you—This is really hard to do in general, but I think it is even harder when it is someone close to you because it is so much more personal. The catch is that it is not our job to punish our husbands for anything. That is God’s job.